We are all unique, creative, loving human beings. When we are
born we begin to smile and coo and people say "oh what a
beautiful baby". Then we begin to crawl and the family is
enthralled. We begin to take those few steps and of course we
fall. "Get up Sweetie, never mind you can try again. Come let
me hold your hand. Yes, Yes Yes! "We take those first steps,
motivated on all the way.
Yes life is so encouraging and loving. But then
we grow up and in the real world where we are
no longer toddlers we get told: "Be careful",
"Don't do that!", "Don't you know!" "No… No…
No! When we do something and fail , instead of
"Sweetie, we learn through our mistakes lets
try again" or "What could help you to succeed?"
We hear "I told you not to do that!"
What we hear in different words is "you are not
good enough" or "you don't deserve this" and we
take these words on.
It's no wonder people walk around with low self images, and
insecurity. We believe them and they become so much a part
of us. Sometimes we hear them told to others by others and
then, when we get something wrong we tell them to ourselves in
our minds - "come on Sam you're not clever enough" or "you
won’t get it right (so leave it)"
And we start believing our thoughts. It is not that we
don’t stop to question them and if they are real. We most
often don’t even see them. It's like walking through life
blindfolded and also hitting ourselves along the
The average person has around 70,000
thoughts going through their head a day and most of it is
unconscious and depending who you are may be quite
negative. A way to work on ourselves is to get to know
those thoughts and then question if they are really true or
not. I recommend reading the article on Mindfulness.
experience cognitive awareness and inquiry is one of the key
factors in personal growth. Mastering your mind, your
thoughts, and beliefs opens up a whole new space of
awareness. In this space of awareness we evolve and
respond to our life with conscious choice.
a classic exercise to practice awareness, You can do this
any time of day and any place.
Sit down at a table and actively look into your mind for one or
two minutes. Don’t do anything else but to look and see where
is your mind right now? Are your thoughts of the past, the
present or the future? What's there? Are you thinking something
which appears to be positive, negative or neutral. After about
two minutes start to write down everything you remembered you
were thinking about. Then read it neutrally, without passing
any judgment or criticism about what you